contraception

I was going to edit the previous post shortly after hitting publish, but have had my hands full. Where my thoughts really led me on that 3rd paragraph (summary: mom with young children takes courage) wasn't so much the wonders of modern men as the importance of contraception.

Consider that wanted pregnancies are one long pendulum of this is amazing / what did i get myself into / i am so lucky / am i ready for this? / wow / holy shit , and that days with a newborn are no different (and can be worse if you get hit by postpartum depression), and days with a toddler can be just as challenging, not to speak of teens no doubt, then imagine unplanned / too-close pregnancies, the exhaustion for the moms and the ambivalence, if not downright resentment, they must certainly feel. I tell you all, from the great height of my one-month (today!) experience as a mother of two, it's simply better for everyone if the mom wants each child wholeheartedly. End of obvious thought.